You always put others needs before your own. Maybe you aren't even very aware of your needs until you are either in a lot of pain or totally burned out. You find it challenging to say no, use up your vacation or sick days and fear disappointing others around you. You struggle with setting boundaries. You are filled with self doubt and have a constant need for external validation that you "are enough". When people ask you for what you want, you don't often know and struggle with identifying and advocating for your own desires. In relationships, you often are the one giving more than you are getting and stay silent about the non-reciprocity. You have learned not to expect a lot from others. 

You are dedicated to taking time outside of your 9-5 to mutual aid efforts, and activism. You often fill up your free time with volunteering on boards, or recruiting volunteers for the next event. You find yourself prioritizing other peoples needs at the cost of your own personal well being. You find it difficult to hold in tension the needs of the community with your own self-care. You feel guilty and selfish when considering prioritizing your own care. You feel "okay" when others are "okay." You don't feel entitled to rest knowing that others are suffering and unwell. You don't want to take up too much space with your needs because you fear that it might come at the cost of other people getting their needs met.  

From a young age, you have been driven to outperform your peers, striving for top grades and chasing the validation that comes from having high accolades. Whenever you get a promotion, or compliment, you don't take it for face value. You dismiss it or feel awkward about it. You don't think you deserve recognition and believe that it might be taken away in the future. Conversely, you don't like professional feedback because you take it personallyYou have a superpower of being unnaturally persistent due to your deep seated desire to meet (and exceed) the expectations set by your family, culture and society. This pursuit of excellence often comes at a great cost-- your emotional and mental well being. The fear of failure and being mediocre scares you and keeps you up at night. The question underlying everything is "Am I good enough?"

You are finding yourself in a position of influence and leadership. you are born from a cultural background that values the relentless pursuit of success, working harder than those around you and being others centered. You have "made it", but feel pressured to take on more responsibilities and continue to prove yourself. You feel emotionally drained and disconnected from your authentic self-- working hard in order to avoid feelings of emptiness. You are not used to people being vulnerable and therefore not willing to be vulnerable yourself. You keep your fears to yourself, especially your fear of being found out as someone who is an imposter. You think that you got your success from external factors rather than acknowleging your gifts and skills.